The grass felt damp and cold under me. The late summer sun was setting and the warm day was giving way to a crisp evening. I wasn’t prepared. My jacket was in car. I guess I’d need to adjust my thinking now that fall was fast approaching. It’s jacket season, Christy. Like it, or not.
I turned and looked over my left shoulder. My kids were standing on a small hill. Each had a golf putter in hand and a pile of golf balls at their feet. They were playing around on the putting green and I was enjoying the show. Mostly, I liked the commentary.
“Which of those three flags on the putting green are you aiming for?” I asked.
My middle child, the one who just turned nine, answered quickly.
“Whichever one the ball rolls closest to when I hit it.”
I smiled and shrugged my cold shoulders. I guess sometimes we all adjust. Our mindsets, our golf swings, our wardrobes.
Earlier in the week, that same child sat and sobbed at the thought of making a decision. It wasn’t even a bad set of options she was choosing between, she just felt overwhelmed and fearful that she’d pick the wrong one.
“There is no wrong answer here, Karly.” My husband said. “These are both good choices. Mommy and I understand that it’s sometimes hard to make a decision, but what we have learned to do is to just pick one — to the best of our knowledge, and then later, if we need to adjust, we do.” I stood there nodding my head in agreement.
Sometimes we just have to swing the putter, hit the ball, and watch where it rolls.
And then we adjust.
We learn. We think about how we hit the ball and what it felt like, and we decide if that’s how we want to do it again. Or, do we want to try something different next time? Should we try to aim at something else?
Life is full of adjustments. Full of surprises. Confusion. Change. Clarifications.
And that’s okay. We truly live and learn every. single. day.
Sometimes we guide our decisions, and other times our decisions guide us.
Either way, we’ll never be succesful if we don’t swing the putter, hit the ball, and watch it roll.
This post was inspired by the Five Minute Friday community where bloggers are encouraged to write for about 5 minutes based on a one-word prompt. This week’s prompt: GUIDE